Dear Me – A Message to My Younger Self

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If I could go back in time, I’d tell my much younger self, as I began my journey through single parenthood, that it’s going to be okay.

Dear Me,

I know you are frightened about all the the responsibilities laid on your shoulders. It’s okay. You’ll be fine. You care about getting every detail right, including the small ones that really don’t matter so much. Take a breath and know that you are good enough, strong enough and committed enough to make it through the tough times.

Show your love to the people that matter most and be willing to accept love. Make sure your son knows how much you love him. And, ask for help. People are willing to share the load. You don’t have to do everything yourself. It’s not a sign of weakness, but one of strength, allowing you to focus on the most important things.

Take care of yourself. Keep exercising. Your fitness will help you stay strong and confident. 

You are a good person and all of your efforts will pay off. So, relax and enjoy the ride. It’s going to be exciting, challenging and lots of fun.


Your Future Self

Knowing what you know now, it there any message you’d love to send to your younger self?


I wish I would have relaxed more, Janine. I was so hard on myself. It’s amazing I didn’t keel over from the stress.


It’s only the big things I remember too, Piper. It was a struggle, but we survived stronger than ever.


For me, my life has been an interesting journey. I never would have known back in my younger years about the strength that God gave me inside. This strength allowed me to endure the pain of watching my mother and my husband both take their last breath on earth as I stood by their sides holding their hands. Then to have the WILL to go on with my life and be blessed by every day that God has given me. The letter to my self has changed through the years.

My letter now says:

Dearest ME
Be happy for who you are and what you still have yet to be!

Tell your Sisters how much you love them!

Take the time to share a smile or offer a hug – EVERYDAY!

Stop and smell the roses!

Be happy today because you are never promised tomorrow!

Make a difference in the lives of those people whose journey happens to be a part of yours!



Recently on Facebook, I challenged my friends to come up with two words they would say to their younger selves. There were many good responses. My answer was “things change.” I thought about my teens and how I felt the barbs of hurt and pain would remain forever. I remembered how I was afraid I’d never find my way out of the stifling fog of my first marriage. I was certain my daughter would never grow out of the terrible two’s. And I was so sure that my step-daughter would never figure out who she was. I was wrong. In spite of my fears, everything changed.

Kristi Campbell

I love your letter to you younger, more afraid you, Jennifer. You’re so right that it seems that during the hardest of times, that we rise to the occasion and that looking back offers us peace and wisdom that is impossible to see during the stormy days. You rock, and are definitely way more than enough and always have been. Beautiful post, friend. <3

Jenny @ Express Bus Mama

Love this letter. Keep exercising, I like that. It’s such an easy thing to forget to do. I would tell my younger self to be a little bit more aware of others, a little more caring. Also that life isn’t as complicated as we think.


I love your letter, Wendy. Life is definitely interesting every step of the way and it’s so important to never give up. Love you, too!


Those are great words, Bonnie. Let’s see…two words…”keep going” We’ve made it through a lot, haven’t we?


Thanks Kristi. I’m still surprised sometimes at how strong I can be when the going get’s tough. I think my Mom showed me her strength through her actions and it rubbed off. 🙂


Beautiful, Jenny. I especially love your message of being more aware of others. We can make such a difference in people’s lives.

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